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Conduct Yourself - Respect matters

Conduct Yourself - Respect matters

Adam Hookway7 Feb - 07:47
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How we all behave as parents/spectators, players and coaches matters.

We are All responsible for ensuring that TJs rugby is an enjoyable experience for ALL. And It's absolutely vital that we uphold and demonstrate the highest standards when participating, in any way, with the game we enjoy, rugby.
It's all too easy for some to over step the line, literally in some case, or to express themselves in ways that lack the proper respect long associated with the egg-shaped game.
Players and Coaches are constantly under the spotlight re their behaviour and match officials and the County and England RFU's have very busy disciplinary processes to manage and monitor such matters.
But how we behave impacts on us all and we all need to ensure that our conduct matches the high standards we as a Club, and rugby, rightly expects.
And that includes parents/spectators from the very youngers age groups, through the Junior Girls and Boys all the way to the senior squads and beyond - IT MATTERS
Attached is the Club's Codes of Conduct - please take some time to read and digest it. And then put it into practice
Parents/Spectators should also consider and abide by the following
In Rugby Union coaches and administrators both fully acknowledge that parents are an integral part of the partnership, which ensures that young players enjoy their involvement in the sport and experience an environment in which they can flourish.

In Rugby Union parents are encouraged to:

  • Be familiar with the coaching and training programme in order that they can ensure that their child is fully involved and the coaches are aware of their availability.
  • Be familiar with the teaching and coaching methods used by observing the sessions in which your child participates.
  • Be aware that the club has a duty of care and therefore, where appropriate, assist coaches with the supervision of the young players, particularly where numbers are large and there is a need to transport youngsters to away games.
  • Be involved with club activities and share your expertise.
  • Share concerns, if you have them, with club officials.

Be familiar with the "Good Coach's code". In particular:
  • Coaches should recognise the importance of fun and enjoyment when coaching young players.
  • Coaches should keep winning and losing in perspective, encouraging young players to behave with dignity in all circumstances.

It is important that parents support coaches in instilling these virtues.

The Good Spectator’s code

Young rugby players are impressionable and their behaviour will often reflect that of adults around them. We welcome spectators on our touchlines who embrace the ethos of the game as one of fun, enjoyment and skill development.

Spectators are encouraged to:

  • Act as positive role models to all young players.
  • Be familiar with, and abide by, the RFU child protection guidance in relation to verbal and emotional abuse.
  • Respect the rugby club policy with regard to spectator behaviour.

    In Rugby Union spectators should:
  • Remember children play sport for their enjoyment not yours.
  • Acknowledge good individual and team performance from all youngsters irrespective of which team they play for.
  • Respect match official's decisions. Remember, they are volunteers providing an opportunity for youngsters to play rugby.
  • Never verbally abuse young players, match officials, fellow spectators or coaches. Such behaviour can create a negative environment for young players and their behaviour will often reflect this.
  • Acknowledge effort and good performance rather than the "win at all costs" ethic.
  • Verbally encourage all youngsters in a positive way. If you do want to shout make sure it is 'for', not 'at', the players.
  • Condemn bad language, rude behaviour and violence.
  • Encourage all youngsters irrespective of their ability – never ridicule any individual player, regardless of the team they play for.

Remember - It's only a game!
RFU's own Code of Conduct reinforces the types of behaviour to be expected and enjoyed by All


Codes of Conduct 2023-24 onwards

Further reading